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Archbishop Peter Jensen's Christmas Message 2011 on the centrality of Jesus to human history
Finding a safe place for Robert
David Pettett
September 25th, 2011

Robert was regularly sodomised and brutally bashed by his uncle from the time he was eight until he ran away from home at age 13 to live on the streets. It was safer there. In fact Robert’s home had never been safe. His mother had moved house regularly trying to stay one step ahead of Robert’s violent father.

Robert survived on the streets but also spent time in and out of boys’ homes because of the petty crime he did in order to support himself. He was able to get by in the world as long as the police didn’t catch up with him. Drug use became a way of life.

Some hope dawned for Robert when he met a young woman as he was passing through a country town. He decided to stay and managed to even get his first job at the local tyre centre. After a few months a man happened along who offered Robert much bigger prospects down in Sydney. Robert agreed with his girlfriend that he should go to see what prospects this might have.

When he arrived in Sydney the man who had offered so much was nowhere to be found. Robert was alone in a strange place except that he knew how to survive on the streets. He stopped a lady walking down the street, took $20 from her and ran. But he didn’t run fast enough. Robert was arrested and sent to the Remand Centre at Silverwater to await trial.

Robert was befriended by a Christian inmate who first encouraged him to come to chapel. He started reading the Bible and then began attending the midweek Bible studies.

Robert’s day in court finally came around. He had no family or friends to be there for him so the Chaplain went along to give him support. The judge that day was one of the harsh ones. He said that a crime like this deserves at least five years in gaol. He then began reading the medical and psychological reports detailing Robert’s background. Also in the reports was the fact that Robert had been offered a place in a rehabilitation centre which he could go to once he was released from gaol. This would help him address his drug abuse issues and help him to work through the trauma of his early life.

The judge finally looked up and said, “Let’s give him a go. He can go to this rehabilitation centre for six months. Then we’ll bring him back here and if he’s doing O.K. he might get a suspended sentence.” Amazingly, Robert was released from court. The Chaplain was able to drive him back to the gaol to collect his meagre belongings and then to the rehabilitation centre where he is receiving support to help deal with all his issues.

When Robert is finished with rehab I am wondering what shape our churches need to look like to be able to welcome him into Christian community. What would you say to him if he showed up on Sunday morning?

 

(Photo credit: CORE materials)

Michael Wells    25 September 2011 8:04pm
G',day, I'm Michael

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Sandy Grant    25 September 2011 11:44pm
David, thanks for the article. I am guessing a bit, but I think at St Michael's he'd be welcomed - and probably really warmly - in the service and the refreshments after.

Being a city centre church, we get all sorts, even though most regulars tend to be middle class.

My question is whether he'd be welcomed into people's homes. I have to say I an honestly unsure. And this is a challenge for us. You've put a pebble in my boot. One that needs to be there.

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Stephen Davis    26 September 2011 2:13am
Welcome mate! I would also say that as time went on and he got to know people more, he probably would be welcomed into their homes!

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David Pettett    26 September 2011 5:39am
@Sandy. I'm glad for the pebble in your boot. ANGLCIARE in Wollongong is about to embark on training people for a post prison mentoring program. Have a word with them.
@ Steve. Thanks for the welcome. What's going to make Robert get to know people? Why will he come back for a second week?

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Sandy Grant    26 September 2011 5:41am
David, I have already advertised this to people in the congregation a couple of weeks running. Your former CEO, Peter Kell underlined it in the service he was leading as well that day!

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Russell Powell    26 September 2011 5:56am
Details of that Anglicare program also in the October Southern Cross - just about hit the pews...

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Stephen Davis    26 September 2011 9:52pm
Thanks David, I think the answer to your question to me lies with one of the most important aspects of the Christian faith - forming relationships. Depending on how he was greeted in the first instance, if that first experience was pleasant enough then that has probably put into his mind the desire to come back to find out more. I think when people take an interest in you personally, you start to think more about opening up, naturally at first being cautious about what you reveal but as time goes by and relationships are developed the sense of belonging becomes more stable and reassuring.

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Ernest Burgess    29 September 2011 4:34am
As a person who works in rehab like the one Robert was referred to all I can say is a big thanks to the Bible Society for enabling us to distribute bibles to the"Robert's" of this world. My only question on this article is about the Christian man who shared with Robert are we more likely to distrust him back in churches more than Robert? Do we have a tendency to and for the want of a better word "judge" the Christian more harshly?

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Stephen Davis    29 September 2011 4:36am
Why would we distrust the Christian man more than Robert?

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Ernest Burgess    29 September 2011 4:59am
Stephen , you have answered this at #7 it involves the established relationships and trust that you have already had and in some cases a very deep sense of betrayal.

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Stephen Davis    29 September 2011 5:03am
Sorry Ernest, maybe I missed the point of your comment.

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Michael Wells    29 September 2011 7:40am
That post-prison mentoring looks great! Well done Anglicare for looking to build bridges for after prison

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David Pettett    29 September 2011 8:25am
@ Ernie. I'm not sure what you mean either. Just to clarify who this "Christian man" is, he was another inmate in prison. He was brought up in a Christian home, rejected Christ, went off the rails, was convicted of murder, then was found again (by Jesus who went out to find his one lost sheep). This man saw Robert as another lost sheep and reached out to him. I'm not sure who you mean has a "deep sense of betrayal" and why they would have it.

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Ernest Burgess    29 September 2011 9:53am
Dave, I made the assumption that the "Christian man" (as his background was not explained in your article above) was a believer pre prison. I now find out he was not. However for the sake of the exercise lets assume that he was and that he used his church connections/relationships to defraud members of his church or abuse their children that is where the deep sense of betrayal comes in. It affects members of the church who have been hurt by his actions would they be keen to welcome him back into their local church fellowship? Looking forward to see all the details re Roberts case in the next Southern Cross.

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David Pettett    29 September 2011 10:07am
@ Ernie. Ah. Very good question. I have known several Christians who have served or are serving prison sentences for various crimes that have impacted members of their church. (Fraud offenses. Sexual abuse offenses.) And I know that those Christians who have been impacted have found it impossible to forgive. But that really is another issue beyond my original question.
As to your last sentence, you will NOT "see all the details re Robert's case in the next Southern Cross."

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Ernest Burgess    29 September 2011 10:23am
Actually Dave you have kind of answered my question at 8# do we judge the "Christian man more harshly and you have indicated in 15# that those Christians who have been impacted have found it impossible to forgive. So in a sense when both come out of prison and have paid their respective dues to society according to law the "Roberts" have a better change of being connected to a church than those who previously belonged to a church?

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Ernest Burgess    29 September 2011 10:26am
correction on 16# I meant chance not change.

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David Pettett    29 September 2011 10:29pm
@ Ernie # 16. This is probably the case. Where members of a church have been offended against there are very significant issues that need to be addressed before the perpetrator just turns up again, having served his/her time. For real forgiveness and reconciliation there would need to be a process of restorative justice.

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